Lori G, LPC
Therapy
When Life Changes
Change can be difficult even when it is something you wanted.
A new job, relationship, move, graduation, parenting role, recovery milestone, or other transition may bring excitement while also creating uncertainty, stress, or a sense of loss.
Other changes may be unwanted or unexpected, such as a breakup, job loss, illness in the family, caregiving responsibilities, grief, separation, or a shift in an important relationship.
Sometimes the hardest part is not the change itself. It is figuring out who you are, what comes next, and how to adjust when life no longer looks the way it did before.
Common Life Transitions
People may seek therapy while navigating:
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Career changes or job loss
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Starting or leaving a relationship
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Separation or divorce
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Moving or relocating
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Becoming a parent
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Changes in family roles
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Children leaving home
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Caregiving responsibilities
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Grief and loss
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Returning to work or school
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Graduation or entering a new stage of adulthood
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Retirement
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Recovery and changes in identity after substance use
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Changes in friendships or support systems
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Health-related changes
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Identity or values shifts
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Feeling uncertain about what comes next
A transition does not have to look dramatic from the outside to feel significant.
Why Even Positive Changes Can Feel Hard
People sometimes expect themselves to feel only excited about a positive change.
In reality, change often involves both gain and loss.
Starting something new may also mean leaving behind familiar routines, relationships, roles, or versions of yourself. Even a change you worked hard for can bring anticipatory anxiety, fear of failure, self-doubt, or worry about whether you will be able to handle what comes next.
You may find yourself thinking through every possible outcome, questioning your decision, or feeling pressure to “get it right” because the change is something you chose.
Therapy can provide space for both sides of the experience without requiring you to decide whether the change is “good” or “bad.” It can also help you separate realistic concerns from anxiety-driven predictions and build confidence in your ability to adjust as you go.
When Your Identity Starts to Shift
Major transitions can raise questions that go beyond logistics.
You may find yourself wondering:
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Who am I in this new role?
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What do I want now?
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Do the things that used to matter to me still fit?
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Am I making the right decision?
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What if I regret the change?
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What parts of my old life do I want to keep?
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What do I want this next chapter to look like?
These questions are not necessarily signs that something is wrong. They may be part of adjusting to a life that is changing.
Uncertainty & Decision-Making
Transitions often come with decisions, and decisions can feel especially difficult when there is no obviously correct answer.
You may find yourself overthinking, seeking reassurance, delaying a choice, or worrying about every possible outcome.
Therapy can help you slow the process down, identify what matters most to you, separate fear from preference, and make decisions that feel more aligned with your values rather than simply trying to eliminate uncertainty.
Grief Can Be Part of Change
Not all grief follows a death.
People can grieve relationships, jobs, routines, identities, expectations, places, opportunities, or versions of life they thought they would have.
Sometimes moving forward requires making room for what was lost rather than pretending that a new chapter automatically replaces the one before it.
Therapy can provide space to acknowledge both what you are leaving behind and what you may be moving toward.
Major changes can also bring existing concerns to the surface or make them more difficult to manage.
Transitions may overlap with anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, relationship concerns, burnout, substance use, or changes in emotional regulation.
Looking at the whole picture can help us understand whether the transition itself is the primary stressor or whether it is interacting with something else that also deserves attention.
Life Transitions &
Other Concerns
How Therapy Can Help
Therapy during a life transition may include work around:
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Managing uncertainty
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Clarifying values and priorities
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Making difficult decisions
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Adjusting to new roles or responsibilities
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Coping with grief and loss
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Building new routines
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Managing anxiety or self-doubt
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Exploring identity changes
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Setting boundaries
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Strengthening relationships and support systems
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Letting go of expectations that no longer fit
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Developing confidence in unfamiliar situations
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Recognizing what is within your control
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Creating a clearer sense of direction
What Therapy With Me
May Look Like
My approach to life transitions is person-centered, collaborative, and practical.
I am not going to tell you what your next step should be simply because it seems logical from the outside.
Instead, we may look at what you are feeling, what you are afraid of losing, what matters most to you, and what possibilities you may not have given yourself permission to consider.
Depending on your needs, I may incorporate Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Gestalt techniques, strengths-based approaches, and other interventions.
Sometimes therapy may focus on concrete decisions and next steps. Other times, the work may be more about understanding who you are becoming and learning to tolerate the uncertainty that comes with change.
The goal is not to remove every difficult feeling from the transition. It is to help you move through it with more clarity, intention, and confidence.
Ready to Get Started?
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